Complaining is the absolute worst possible thing you could do for your health and wealth. The worst! Why?
I’m a big believer in the universal law that states, “What you focus on expands.” When you are complaining, what you are focusing on, what’s right with your life or what’s wrong with it, and since what you focus on expands, you’ll keep getting more of what’s wrong.
Many teachers in the personal development field talk about the Law of Attraction. It states, “likes attracts like,” meaning that when you are complaining, you are actually attracting “crap” into your life. Have you ever noticed that complainers usually have a tough life? It seems that everything that could go wrong does go wrong for them. They say, “Of course I complain look how crappy my life is.” And now that you know better, you can explain to them, “No, it’s because you complain that your life. Shut up…and don’t stand near me!”
Which brings up to another point. You have to make darn sure not to put yourself in the proximity of complainers. If you absolutely have to be nearby, make sure you bring a steel umbrella or that crap meant for them will get you too! I stay as far away from complainer as possible because negative energy is infectious. Plenty of people, however, love to hang out and listen to complainers. Why? It’s simple; they’re waiting for their turn! “You think that’s bad? Wait until you hear what happened to me!”
Here’s some homework that I promise will change your life. For the next seven days, I challenge you to not complain at all. Not just out loud, but in your head as well. But you have to do it for the full seven days. Why? Because for the first few days, you may still have some “residual crap”coming to you from before. Unfortunately, crap doesn’t travel at the speed of light, you know, it travels at the speed of crap, so it might take a while to clear out.
I’ve giving this challenge to thousands of people, and I’m blown away at how many of them have told me that this one, teensy-weensy exercise has transformed their lives. I guarantee you’ll be astonished at how amazing your life will be when you stop focusing on-and thereby stop attracting crap into your life. If you’ve been a complainer, forget about attracting success for now; for most people, just getting to “neutral” would be a great start!
Blaming, justification, and complaining are like pills. They are not more then stress reducers. They alleviate the stress of failure. Think about it. If a person weren’t failing in some way, shape, or form, would he or she need to blame, justify, or complain? The obvious answer is no.
From now on, as you hear yourself disastrously blaming, justifying, or complaining, cease and desist immediately. Remind yourself that you are creating your life and that at every moment you will be attracting either success or crap into your life. It is imperative you choose your thoughts and world wisely!
Now you’re ready to hear one of the greatest secrets in the world. Are you ready? Read this carefully. There is no such thing as a really rich victim! Did you get that? I’ll say it again: There is no such thing as a really rich victim. Besides, who would listen? “Tsk , tsk, I got a scratch in my yacht.” To which almost anyone would respond, “Who gives a hoot?”
Meanwhile, being a victim definitely has its rewards. What do people get out of being a victim? The answer is attention. Is attention important? You bet it is. In some form or another it’s what almost everyone lives for. And the reason people live for attention is that they’ve made a critical mistake. It is the same error that virtually all of us have made. We’ve confused attention with love.
Believe me, it is virtually impossible to be truly happy and successful when you’re constantly yearning for attention. Because if it’s attention you want, you’re at the mercy of others. You usually end up as a “people pleaser” begging for approval. Attention seeking is also a problem because people tend to do stupid things to get it. It is imperative to “unhook” attention and love, for a number of reasons.
First, you will be more successful; second, you will be happier; and third, and you can find “true” love in your life. For the most part, when people confuse love and attention, they don’t love each other in the true spiritual sense of the word. They love each other largely from the place of their own ego, as in “I love what you do for me.” Therefore, the relationship is really about the individual, and not about the other person or at least the both of you.
By disconnecting attention from love, you will be freed up to love another for who they are, rather then what they do for you.<!--[if !supportEmptyParas]-->Now as I said, there is no such thing as a rich victim. So to stay a victim, attention seekers make darn sure they never get rich. <!--[endif]-->
It’s time to decide, you can be a victim or you can be rich, but you can’t be both. Listen up! Every time, and I mean every time, you blame, justify, or complain, you are slitting your financial throat. Sure, it would be nice to use a kinder and gentler metaphor, but forget it. I’m not interested in kind or gentle right now. I am interested in helping you see exactly what the heck you’re doing to yourself! Later, once you get rich, we can be kinder and gentler, how’s that?
It’s time to take back your power and acknowledge that you create everything that is in your life and everything that is not in it. Realize that you create your wealth, your non-wealth, and every level in between.
From the book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, by T. Harv Eker